Strength in the Face of Ridicule

When I was in college, I was in a relationship with a guy I will call Jake.  I was committed to a life of purity and had wonderful friends who were as well.  Despite these great friendships, I knew that I was far from being in the majority when it came to my views on sexual morality.  For example, my weekends involved sobriety and good choices, and I went back to my own dorm and slept alone in my own bed every single night.  One night, during the fall semester of my junior year, I was hanging out with Jake at his on-campus apartment, when his roommates came in.  Although I don’t remember specifically what they said, I do recall them mocking me for not spending the night.  To make matters worse, my boyfriend, frustrated at times with my purity stance as well, didn’t even stick up for me. I tried to laugh it off and ignore them, but to this day, even though Jake is no longer a part of my life, I haven’t forgotten about it.  It’s something that I will always remember.  

So, why am I telling you this?  It’s because I know how difficult it can be to be a young person in today’s world who believes in chastity.  I know what it feels like to be made fun of for desiring purity and to be constantly pressured by a significant other to push the envelope.   I also am well aware that I was one of the lucky ones, because I actually had a group of friends who supported me in my choices.  A lot of young people don’t have that.  That’s why Carolyn’s Place is holding a very special contest to support and encourage young people who have chosen to live a life of chastity, even when they feel alone in their decision.  Teens and young adults from all over the country can make a video of themselves answering questions about the importance of chastity in their lives and submit them to us.  Two winners will then be chosen to receive an iPad as a prize!  We hope that you will consider participating in or spreading the news to others about this contest!  All of the details can be found via the link below.

As always, please email, call 203-695-3999, or comment on this post if you have any questions.




 Yes, you read those last two words correctly. 

 As the Education Director at Carolyn’s Place, a large part of my job entails developing and implementing programs on abstinence, self-respect, and healthy relationships for children, teens, and young adults.  However, Carolyn’s Place is well aware that it is not enough to just talk about these subjects for an hour or two and then walk away.  There needs to be on-going dialogue, and there needs to be encouragement for those young people who desire to live or are living a life of purity.  That’s where the iPad comes in.  From now until 11:59 pm on August 23, 2014, teens and young adults can join Carolyn’s Place’s first official chastity contest and compete to win a brand new iPad!  

All of the details for the contest can be found via the link below.  Please note that there is no cost to join, and that participants will have to film themselves answering questions about the importance of chastity in their lives.  No video will be shared publicly unless permission is granted. Please also note that anyone under 18 must have a parent or guardian fill out the permission form on page 5.  GOOD LUCK, EVERYONE!


Adoption – The Option of Adoption

Couple with BabyAdoption is a very special gift. It is the gift of life to both the baby and the couple who will love and raise the child. Unfortunately, many mothers won’t consider adoption because they can’t imagine giving their baby away, yet they are unable to be a single parent. For the father, marriage may not be is a feasible option. In many instances, women don’t choose adoption out of fear or embarrassment.

At Carolyn’s Place Pregnancy Care Center, we can help you work through adoption. We have a trained adoption specialist on staff, who can answer all of your questions and provide you with the support you need. Adoption is conducted very differently now than in years past. Today the birth mother is respected and empowered. She chooses the parents she wants for her child from resumes and interviews. The birth families and adoptive families get to know each other and often become friends during the pregnancy. Together they agree upon the right degree of openness for after the baby is born. Find out more about adoption. Call Carolyn’s Place at 203 597-9050.

Six Little Words…Two Special Lives

The story below appeared in our Summer 2011 Newsletter.

At 10 PM on a cold Sunday night in January, the Carolyn’s Place hotline rang and a young female voice said, “Hi, this is Angela, and I heard you help people who are going to have a baby.”

“That’s right,” responded Carolyn’s Place Client Director Ellen. “How can I help you?”

The timid voice questioned, “You go to the hospital with girls, right?”


“Would you come with me?”

“Yes, when are you due?”

“I am in labor right now.”

Ellen instructed the young girl to head to the hospital where she would meet her. Ellen had just completed an evening talk to a Confirmation class in Bristol, so she immediately headed for the hospital in Waterbury.

Ellen arrived at the hospital to find a frightened fourteen-year-old girl alone and about to give birth. That is when Ellen’s nineteen years of experience “kicked in” to what she does best, giving unconditional support to help this child go through labor and delivery. No questions, no judgments made, just help keep a young girl calm while she brought a new life into the world.

Several hours later Angela gave birth to a healthy baby boy. She courageously chose to place him with a loving adoptive family. Carolyn’s Place remained by Angela’s side providing emotional support for days following the birth. The hospital social worker was able to track down Angela’s parents out of state. She was a runaway, and her parents had spent many agonizing months unable to locate her. They were joyfully and tearfully reunited to try and pick up the pieces to re-establish their family and be a part of their daughter’s teenage years again. We found out that Angela had heard about Carolyn’s Place from a student at one of the Waterbury high schools who had participated in our Respect, Responsibility Education Program.

It won’t be easy for Angela and there will be many challenges, but thanks to that one phone call and the response, “Carolyn’s Place, may I help you?” two young lives are united with loving families.

Happy Easter!

On this Easter day as we celebrate the Paschal Mystery, we reflect on Jesus’ Resurrection, overcoming death and giving us all new life. The 40 Days for Life campaign recently concluded, and we are proud to announce that 554 babies were saved from abortion during this time, according to At this time, we invite you to join us in continuing this work and in invoking God through a special prayer for the next 50 days of the Easter Season – a time to reflect on the joy of life.

Visit the Priests for Life blog by clicking here to find the Easter Prayer for Life.


Taking Baby Steps Toward a Better Life – Part 4

by Joy Savulak

And how could we ever forget about Valeria who we met through our Earn While You Learn program? Determined to keep her baby from the get-go, Valeria made it exceedingly clear through her dismissive attitude that she was solely attending the parenting classes to earn a crib and other supplies for her baby. At the end of the six-week program, Valeria had indeed earned her supplies, but we at Carolyn’s Place earned something much more rare and valuable: her trust.

You see, in her nineteen years, Valeria could never trust anyone. She had recently moved to Connecticut to be near her biological father, a drug addict whose influence likely initiated Valeria’s own struggles with addiction and the law. Scared and alone, Valeria built walls around herself that only God could demolish. When  she realized that Carolyn’s Place truly cared for her as a person, the real Valeria – a sweet girl who just waned to be loved – emerged. Drug-free since her pregnancy, she is the proud mother of a two-year old and is engaged to be married.

These beautiful families – and hundreds of other Carolyn’s Place clients just like them – experienced first-hand God’s power to change hearts and lives. It takes a great deal of courage for these young women to trust and accept God’s new, and often challenging plan, and we are incredibly proud of each of their accomplishments and successes.

*All names changed to protect the identity of our clients.

Taking Baby Steps Towards a Better Life – Pt. 3

by Joy Savulak

And then there’s Mysha and her husband Mike, a beautiful couple in their early 20’s whose parents did not approve of their marriage due to religious differences. Unemployed and expecting their first child, the two sought out our Earn While You Learn program to gain the parenting skills they needed. The two eagerly absorbed the information taught at every class and asked many questions. Mike often talked about his own rough childhood and his determination to do things differently for his own child. Unemployed during a difficult economy, Mike left no stone unturned in his quest to provide for his family and soon found two jobs. We’ll never forget his beaming smile as he rattled down our driveway to show us the first vehicle he ever purchased: a beat-up old truck.

Now expecting their second child, Mysha and Mike still regularly visit their Carolyn’s Place family who provided much love and support during what was a very trying time in their lives.