This is so important for everyone to be aware of! Make sure you share this with everyone you know!
Dear Girls & Boys in Grades 6-10,
Are you single? Well, guess what! That is GREAT NEWS! Why?
BECAUSE THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING SINGLE! The middle school and early high school years are perfect for being independent, trying new things, figuring out what you like and don’t like, and making friends with all different types of people. That can be very hard to do when you are in a relationship! Also, as a young person, it is very easy to allow your boyfriend/girlfriend to define who you are, without even realizing it. Don’t let that happen!
Remember that the person you are today is NOT the person you will be 5 or 10 years from now. Take it from me. I am 25 years old. When I look back on my middle school and high school years, I often think, “What was I thinking?” Why did I wear that? I had a crush on him?”
Over the next few years, you will grow and mature immensely, and the people you date in middle school and high school will probably not even be people you keep in close contact with after graduation. In fact, the odds of you marrying the person you date in middle school or high school are slim.
So, try not to waste your time, energy, and heart on something that will probably not last. Instead, use the freedom that singleness gives you to focus on what will last: your relationship with yourself, with your family, with your friends, with humanity in general, and with God.
I encourage you to pray for a few minutes every day, and learn as much about God as you can. Take some time to discover the immense dignity He has bestowed upon you! Also, remember to enjoy your youth, because when you are an adult, all you will want to do is be a kid again! Trust me, you will have plenty of time to date and have romantic relationships when you are older. Plenty. Most importantly, though, try to remember to trust in God. He created you, loves you, wants what is best for you, and has great, exciting plans for your future!
Speaking of trusting in God, I didn’t always do that as much as I should have. I never dated in middle school or high school, and I often felt left out. But, now, looking back, I am so glad that my first date, my first boyfriend, and my first kiss, all happened in my freshmen year of college! This is because, in middle school and high school, I was able to be really focused on myself. I performed in a ton of plays and was in a bunch of other clubs and honor societies. I also had time to babysit to make some money, volunteer to help others, and play on the flag football team! I got really good grades, and colleges were very impressed with all that I had the time to accomplish! Unlike some kids, I never had to balance a dating relationship with my homework, family obligations, or extracurricular activities. I never had to choose between hanging out with friends or with a boyfriend, and I never had to deal with break ups or a broken heart. My own interests came first, I learned about myself, and I really developed into the person I wanted to be. By the time I had my first date, I knew who I was, and I didn’t need to lean on anyone else to provide my identity for me. I knew what I valued, what was right and wrong, and how I deserved to be treated in a relationship.
I am thankful that God allowed me to be single for as long as I was, and I hope that all of you young, single people out there can look upon your singleness as a blessing, rather than a curse. Please know that you have been given a gift. Don’t waste it!
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11
Check out this great blog post by moral theologian & college professor, Christopher Klofft!
A few weeks back, I had wanted to comment on the celebrity hacking scandal. There are a lot of interesting elements to these unfortunate events, but when I finally found some time to write, I thought the moment had passed. That was before the newest issue of Vanity Fair came out. In it, there is an interview with Jennifer Lawrence – her first public statement since her pictures were among those hacked.
While she is rightfully outraged and hurt about this violation of her privacy, she also includes this very unfortunate statement in her interview that explains why her naked pictures existed in the first place: “I was in a loving, healthy, great relationship for four years. It was long distance, and either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you.”
For a popular, talented, young woman, these are exceptionally sad words.
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When I was in college, I was in a relationship with a guy I will call Jake. I was committed to a life of purity and had wonderful friends who were as well. Despite these great friendships, I knew that I was far from being in the majority when it came to my views on sexual morality. For example, my weekends involved sobriety and good choices, and I went back to my own dorm and slept alone in my own bed every single night. One night, during the fall semester of my junior year, I was hanging out with Jake at his on-campus apartment, when his roommates came in. Although I don’t remember specifically what they said, I do recall them mocking me for not spending the night. To make matters worse, my boyfriend, frustrated at times with my purity stance as well, didn’t even stick up for me. I tried to laugh it off and ignore them, but to this day, even though Jake is no longer a part of my life, I haven’t forgotten about it. It’s something that I will always remember.
So, why am I telling you this? It’s because I know how difficult it can be to be a young person in today’s world who believes in chastity. I know what it feels like to be made fun of for desiring purity and to be constantly pressured by a significant other to push the envelope. I also am well aware that I was one of the lucky ones, because I actually had a group of friends who supported me in my choices. A lot of young people don’t have that. That’s why Carolyn’s Place is holding a very special contest to support and encourage young people who have chosen to live a life of chastity, even when they feel alone in their decision. Teens and young adults from all over the country can make a video of themselves answering questions about the importance of chastity in their lives and submit them to us. Two winners will then be chosen to receive an iPad as a prize! We hope that you will consider participating in or spreading the news to others about this contest! All of the details can be found via the link below.
As always, please email firstname.lastname@example.org, call 203-695-3999, or comment on this post if you have any questions.
Yes, you read those last two words correctly.
As the Education Director at Carolyn’s Place, a large part of my job entails developing and implementing programs on abstinence, self-respect, and healthy relationships for children, teens, and young adults. However, Carolyn’s Place is well aware that it is not enough to just talk about these subjects for an hour or two and then walk away. There needs to be on-going dialogue, and there needs to be encouragement for those young people who desire to live or are living a life of purity. That’s where the iPad comes in. From now until 11:59 pm on August 23, 2014, teens and young adults can join Carolyn’s Place’s first official chastity contest and compete to win a brand new iPad!
All of the details for the contest can be found via the link below. Please note that there is no cost to join, and that participants will have to film themselves answering questions about the importance of chastity in their lives. No video will be shared publicly unless permission is granted. Please also note that anyone under 18 must have a parent or guardian fill out the permission form on page 5. GOOD LUCK, EVERYONE!
Adoption is a very special gift. It is the gift of life to both the baby and the couple who will love and raise the child. Unfortunately, many mothers won’t consider adoption because they can’t imagine giving their baby away, yet they are unable to be a single parent. For the father, marriage may not be is a feasible option. In many instances, women don’t choose adoption out of fear or embarrassment.
At Carolyn’s Place Pregnancy Care Center, we can help you work through adoption. We have a trained adoption specialist on staff, who can answer all of your questions and provide you with the support you need. Adoption is conducted very differently now than in years past. Today the birth mother is respected and empowered. She chooses the parents she wants for her child from resumes and interviews. The birth families and adoptive families get to know each other and often become friends during the pregnancy. Together they agree upon the right degree of openness for after the baby is born. Find out more about adoption. Call Carolyn’s Place at 203 597-9050.